Domestic Domestic

Way back when, before the days of children and when I actually wore single digit pant sizes, I played Junior Olympic Volleyball. It's not as hoity toity as it sounds. I sat the bench. A lot.

Anyway, during my 5 years of JO Volleyball and traveling to weekend tournaments, I spent countless nights in hotel rooms packed with my teenage teammates. These were the days before smart phones and laptops so we literally had no choice but to build relationships and act like teenage girls. That included swimming in clearly closed hotel pools after business hours, spitting over balcony railings, guzzling caffeine laden drinks until the wee hours of the morning, winning some tough matches, losing some that we should have won, making huge plays, missing crucial serves and just growing into adulthood together. You will never hear me say that I miss high school, because I do not. But those days of JO Volleyball, I miss those. A lot.

I miss the sport and I miss the people.

JOVB Summer of 1997 (?)
I'm the 3rd from the left. My friend Heather is last on the right.
Our hair. I blame humidity. And the 90's.
In a day where facebook reeks of political agendas and controversy, especially following the Grammy Awards, State of the Union addresses and the latest celebrity soapbox, I'm often annoyed by what I find on there. Several times I've wanted to just shut down my entire account because I am so over people talking about who said what and what they did and how it was so outside of what they should have done and blah blah blah. But, I don't. And the reason I don't just shut it down and walk away is because:

1) I like showing off my kids. And today was the first shower I've had since Sunday so leaving the house to show them off isn't really an option every day because their adorableness would be overshadowed by my smell and the length of my armpit hair.

2) I get to keep in touch with some people that I treasure deeply, even though I've not seen them in, say, 13 years. Some of those my former teammates from my JO Volleyball days. Heather is one of those people.

Heather drove her tan, chrysler mini-van to practices. Practices that she attended wearing argyle socks and cut off khaki shorts, and sometimes, a polo shirt. I remember being slightly enamored with her because she is one of those people that you just truly enjoy being around. Thoughtful, honest, genuine.

I graduated high school and kissed my semi-small town goodbye, loaded up my car and moved to an even smaller town to play college volleyball. I knew most of the players on my college team from my JO Volleyball days. Heather played volleyball with me in college for a year (maybe 2?). When she hung up the argyle socks and khakis (wait, no, that never happened), she stuck around our small, liberal arts college and for the next 3 years we shared our college campus and a few friends. She was forever making stuff. I remember her making a table top entirely from bottle caps for her apartment. From scratch. The only thing I'd ever made from scratch was Ramen.

Some people have a gift to see beyond the immediate potential of an object (or business) and cast forth a vision of their own. To see beyond what something is in the present and create with it something outside it's normal function. I mean, do you know how long she had to save bottle caps? I'd have quit after buying my first 6-pack of bottled fanta. But that's not Heather.

Through the miracle of the internet (yes, miracle) I've watched her grow into an entrepreneur who sees what is lacking in a community and fills that void in local commerce with tenacity. All while maintaining those same qualities I admired so many, many, many, many years ago while we wore unsightly spandex (you can't play in a game in argyle and khakis) and knee socks. Honestly, integrity, authenticity.

Her latest endeavor is a company called Domestic Domestic. While most Americans disagree on everything from breastfeeding and cosleeping to more serious social issues, I'm sure there's one thing we can all agree on: Buying American made products. Buying WELL MADE American made products, at that.

That's what Domestic Domestic is all about. I asked Heather why she started the company. Here's what she said,

"So many friends do amazing things. Adopt babies, save lives, drs, lawyers, missionaries. I sell things. I just wanted to sell things with a purpose. Make my own difference. The selection of Domestic Domestic is carefully curated. Each item comes from a great company that depends on consumers to be aware of the quality. I love being the connection between these companies and craftsmen and a consumer who gives a damn."

I think that is amazing. Knowing your natural bent in life and pursuing it with a passion to make this crazy world a better place.

Domestic Domestic sells everything from whiffle balls to taco plates (which would make taco night at our house immeasurably easier. Dear God, SPILLED SHREDDED CHEESE. *shudder*) to this little gem that would surely make me smile more when I'm in my kitchen.

Head over to Domestic Domestic yourself and check it out. Because they have stuff I don't even know what you do with it. And a murse that I'm pretty sure Luke is gonna pee his pants over when I show it to him. (He's been looking for one for months. Just pick one already, right?)

Point is, there's variety. American made variety. And some pretty fun stuff that if I'd known about in college, would have made me feel better about making my ramen from scratch.

The Cowboy

Yesterday Elizabeth went to spend the day/night at our Nana's house. She loves Nana. Therefore, I just had the 3 littlest ones. That always gets me to thinking.

I texted Luke and asked him if he wanted take out. Instead, we went out to eat....always a treat! So, we chose this little diner in our town. Luke and I haul the 3 kids in and sit at the biggest booth. Lucas and Ashlee in boosters, Baby D in the carrier. This could get interesting.

After about 5 minutes, my Dad calls and asks what we are doing for dinner. He and my Mom decide to join us. When my Dad arrives the twins get all distracted by Paw Paw. He really is a joy to them. Everyone is focused on conversation and food when I see him.

This man is walking into the diner. He is maybe in his late 60's. He is wearing farmer overalls, boots and tattered, straw cowboy hat. His beard is full and filled with gray. His skin shows obvious signs of hard work and many years laboring in the sun. His demeanor is private. He isn't what I would have expected to see in this small town diner.

He comes in and sits at the table next to us. As dinner continues MeMe arrives, and the twins finish up their food, becoming aware of their surroundings. My Ashlee does not have a shy bone in her body...or a quiet one either. She sees this man. Her eyes get big and her finger stretches out as her voice cries...

"Mommy! A Cowboy!"

Immediately Lucas is captivated. My grandmother, Maw, introduced my children to the world of cowboys and cowgirls. They have been entranced ever since. When they are not playing "Puppy" they are playing "Cowboy."

Lucas, thrilled with Ashlee's discovery, also feels the need to scream.

"Weeeeehaw! Look! A Cowboy!"

I cannot read the old man's face. He is sitting alone and now, our family is fixated on him. I try to quietly explain (from 10 feet away) that my kids LOVE cowboys and that because he is wearing a cowboy hat they think he is a cowboy.

I search his face for either joy or disgust. I find nothing. The twins continue to point and stare and scream

"Cowboy!"

Then it happens. A smile. A warm, tender, happy smile from this man. MeMe has now finished her meal and the twins get distracted by her new ability to hold them. Meanwhile, the cowboy also receives a dinner guest.

Finally, the twins realize they have not "introduced" MeMe to their new friend. The pointing and screaming resumes.

Everyone is finished eating and the twins are now walking from one side of the booth to the other. Then, the old man tries to get Lucas and Ashlee's attention.

Lucas sees it first. The man motions for Lucas to come to him. Lucas is frozen. Lucas is not the type of child you would consider "social." He sticks to his family and avoids strangers at all costs, well except to scream and point at them.

Ashlee, on the other hand, is a different story. She's never met a stranger. Ashlee finally sees the man who is now trying to speak to them above the noise of the now full diner. He holds out a single, shiny quarter and motions for Ashlee to come.

Ashlee skips joyfully over to him. The sweet man offers Ashlee the quarter. Lucas follows suit and now they both have a shiny, beautiful quarter.

They bring them over to us, holding them up with pride. The old man smiles.

We leave the diner, but not before I make sure the man knows just how much he has made the twins' night. Luke also tells him that he is pretty sure that the twins will thank Jesus for the Cowboy tonight, before they go to bed.

The rest of the night Lucas proudly carries around his "Cowboy Quarter."

Ashlee spends her time yelling "Weeeeehaw!"

At a time in our country where the economy is constantly under attack, presidential candidates are pointing out the worst in each other and American citizens are quick to state all of the bad things wrong with our nation, I saw a glimmer of hope in this cowboy.

A total stranger, willing to make the day of a child. The generosity of him to share the change in his pocket so that my kids can have a cowboy souvenir. The smile on an old man's face as he watches two 2 year olds delight in the simple love of a coin.

I was reminded why I love this small town, why I love this country and why I love seeing the world through the eyes of my children.

To them, this world isn't being negated by the stock market or foreclosure rates. The country isn't in distress because of rising health care costs or the lack of social security. Our world isn't in an energy crisis and foreign wars aren't holding them in fear.

To them the world is a loving place filled with people who are kind and caring. Our nation is one that allows us to love others regardless of how rough their edges may be. Our country is one where we can go to a diner expecting to just have dinner, but instead be fed by the generosity of a cowboy.

**On a side note, Lucas looked all over the parking lot for the cowboy's horse. Would you believe we couldn't find it anywhere?